Marriages are taken rather lightly these days, and it’s not unusual for a marriage to come to an end at some point because of cheating. As we can safely assume, no one likes being cheated, especially by their own partner whom they’ve trusted for years. However, like most things in life, cheating does not come suddenly, and there is probably going to be a lot of signs of cheating around you.
The most important thing about this situation is to learn how to spot those red flags and act accordingly. We have made a list that might help you spot signs of cheating if you aren’t sure what to look for.
Here are some of the most common signs that might indicate you’re dealing with a cheating spouse:
1. Emotional Intimacy is Fading
It’s quite natural for couples who have been together for years to stumble upon this particular problem during their relationship; it’s perfectly normal. With that being said, many couples fail to acknowledge this problem and would rather sweep their issues under the rug than solve them.
Emotional intimacy is what bonds two people together for long periods of time. Therefore, if you happen to notice that it’s suddenly fading away, you might want to consider talking to your partner about that lingering predicament while it’s still fresh. The more you wait, the fewer chances you have to make everything right until it’s too late.
2. Sudden Improvement of Appearance
Now, it doesn’t matter whether you’re dating a guy or a girl, if they start making sudden changes as far as their appearance goes, it might have a deeper meaning. It does not necessarily mean you’re being cheated on, but it’s definitely a red flag worth considering.
In fact, any sudden change in behavior can indicate something is wrong. However, it’s not always the case; sometimes, your partner will change the way they look or behave because they love you and want to pander to your wishes rather than doing it because they are having an affair. So, be sure you know what you’re doing before you start judging.
3. Suspicious Use of Computers and Phones
Social media and dating apps are quite common nowadays, and most people have a profile on Facebook, Instagram, Tinder, or Twitter. This isn’t unusual by any stretch of the imagination, but it can very well become a burden if you start noticing weird patterns in your partner’s behavior.
For example, if your girlfriend doesn’t have a habit of hanging on Instagram and if she suddenly starts using it extensively, that might be a red flag. There are plenty of ways to find signs your wife is cheating on you, and sudden change in behavior towards social networks is one of them. As we’ve pointed out before, it’s always better to be suspicious rather than jump to conclusions, because your partner might very well be changing because of you instead of someone else.
4. Your Partner Becomes Suddenly Unreachable
How many times have you heard the good old “The number you are trying to call is unreachable at the moment, please try again later” and thought to yourself “Something must be wrong”?
The answer is, probably – a few too many times. Now, it’s usually a matter of bad signal, low battery, or something along those lines. However, it’s often a matter of trying to hide something from your significant other, and in that case, it’s up to you to find the root of the cause and put an end to a potential affair before it escalates.
If you happen to notice an increased activity of your partner’s social media feeds, it might be a good idea to keep an eye on it and look for suspicious red flags.
5. Problems in the Bedroom
This is probably one of the easiest behavior changes to spot. While many people have problems in the bedroom, the vast majority acknowledges the problem, and most couples will usually try to sort things out before venturing into affairs. The problem is with couples who aren’t willing to acknowledge the issue but would rather ignore it for whatever reason. By ignoring the underlying issue, one will only prolong the inevitable and make it much harder to cope with the longer it remains unsolved.
So, if you notice a sudden decrease or even an increase in sexual activity, those might be signs she’s cheating. On the other hand, it might just be a phase, and in that case, we would strongly recommend talking with your partner and sorting things out before it’s too late.
6. Sudden Hostility From Your Partner
If you’ve come this far, you have probably noticed a pattern in all the aforementioned situations. One thing these situations have in common is the fact that the behavior changes suddenly with a few or even no announcements at all. This is one of the strong reasons as to why would one suspect something is happening or about to happen. If you notice that your partner is becoming increasingly hostile towards you without any reason, there’s probably an important issue lurking beneath the surface. Whether this is a sign he’s cheating is up for debate, but it’s definitely something you ought to resolve before it escalates further.
7. When Cheating is Brought Up, They Change the Subject
Willful ignorance is one of the strongest signs that something has gone horribly wrong in the relationship. Many therapists recommend talking to your partner and figuring things out on your own, but it’s not always a fruitful endeavor. In fact, in most cases, you’ll stumble upon a wall of silence or even worse – willful ignorance.
Whatever the case may be, we would strongly recommend you to be extra careful if your partner starts avoiding conversations that involve cheating. It doesn’t necessarily mean your husband is cheating if he doesn’t want to talk about it, but it’s certainly a massive red flag.
8. Loss of Interest
If you and your partner like to go out on dates, dinners, and in general, spend time together, it’s a sign of a healthy relationship. However, once your partner starts losing interest in doing those things and spending time with you, it’s a good reason to become suspicious.
The thing you should remember is that everything (usually) happens with a reason. Very few people will suddenly change their behavior because they feel like it; there must be a reason behind those kinds of sudden changes. Whether it’s cheating, you can’t really know, but you can definitely try and find out.
9. Issues With Money
Every relationship will have to face this challenge sooner or later, it’s simply inevitable unless you’re a millionaire, but let’s assume you’re not. However, the problem is not the fact that you’re dealing with financial issues; it’s the fact that you can’t find common ground with your partner when money is in question.
Money is a pretty volatile parameter in any relationship, and it can cause some serious issues. We would argue that it’s completely foolish to fight over it, but some people consider it to be a sufficient reason to venture into an affair. Needless to say, don’t cheat on your partner because of money issues, it’s probably the worst thing you can do.
Accusing someone of cheating is a serious thing, and you better have a good reason or else you might end up ruining your own relationship because of trust, or rather, lack thereof. If you find yourself arguing with your partner more frequently than usual, it’s probably a good idea to start your own little investigation and look for signs of cheating. Don’t rush with the conclusion, but instead be thorough and once you’re 100% sure there’s something going on, then it’s time to approach your partner and sort things out.
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