It’s no secret that many people choose to have an affair for multiple reasons, mainly because affairs are exciting, exhilarating, and most importantly – risky.

The vast majority of people have an inherent tendency to put themselves in risky situations because it keeps their adrenaline levels high. On the other hand, some people choose to have an affair simply because they aren’t satisfied with the direction in which their relationship is going. 

While all of this is sweet and dandy, the biggest problem for most people is finding places to hook up without getting caught.  Everyone is afraid of being seen by someone they know because that may seriously affect the relationship with their significant other.

So, what is the best place to meet someone in secret? Is any place 100% safe? What are some of the worst places you can choose to hook up with someone? Sit back, relax, and take a moment to check out some of the places we consider relatively safe, and you may get some ideas for your next secret hookup.

Best Places to Meet for Affairs 

Before we take a better look at our suggestions, it’s important to point out that these aren’t hard written rules but rather a collection of places we think are good and safe. There is always a chance of getting caught; therefore, no place is 100% safe!

With that being said, here are some of our suggestions: 


The good thing about hotels is that they have everything you’ll ever need for a successful dating experience. On the other hand, the bad news is – a hotel is probably the first thing that comes to mind when someone mentions the best places to have an affair. It’s safe to say that hotels are the first place your significant other is going to think of if they start doubting your fidelity. 

Fortunately, there is an easy way of circumventing – choose a hotel that’s relatively far away from your city. Now, that doesn’t mean you have to travel 300 miles to find a suitable place, but then again – the farther you go, the lower the chances are of getting caught. In conclusion, hotels are probably the best place for a hookup if your affair is still in the early stages.



While you can’t have sex in a restaurant (or can you?), it is a good place to meet with your partner in crime. Affairs are not always about sex, if you enjoy someone’s company and you want some privacy, a restaurant is a pretty safe place. Who knows, you may end up having wild sex after a nice, romantic dinner. On top of that, things are less likely to look suspicious if you happen to stumble upon a friend, colleague, and people you know in general. 

Out of Town 

If we were to choose the absolute best place for affairs, it would probably be out of town. The closer you are to your home, the bigger the chances are of getting caught. By that token, it’s pretty obvious that you should set up a date as far away from your home as possible. The best way to do this is to find a location neither of you is familiar with since that’s the best low risk-high reward scenario.

In a Vehicle 

While this definitely isn’t the most comfortable place you could choose, it’s still relatively safe. And, having a successful affair is usually more about safety than comfort. On top of that, if you’re an adventurer and like taking risks, banging your girl in a secluded parking lot is definitely something you ought to try, at least once. 

Another great thing about meeting up in a vehicle is mobility. You can go anywhere you want and choose any place you deem suitable for an excellent, kinky session. All you need to do is turn your car on, put your foot on the gas pedal, and the possibilities are endless! 

Business Trips 

While having an affair on a business trip is probably the oldest cliché in the book, that doesn’t mean it’s inherently a bad idea. In fact, since your significant other already knows you’re going to be away for a while, you don’t have to justify your absence. As far as we are concerned, business trips are one of the best opportunities to start an affair and keep it a secret. If you play your cards right, there’s little to no chance of getting caught.

Places You Should Avoid

Now that we’ve covered some of the relatively safe places, it’s time to shift our attention to the other side of the coin – places you should avoid. 

At the Office 

First of all, it’s mindboggling how many people get caught while having sex in their office. While it’s understandable that people like taking risks, and like riding on high adrenaline levels, banging your date in your own office is probably going to end up being one of your worst mistakes. Since so many things can go wrong, it’s not worth the risk. If you’re horny and can’t wait, take a lunch break and meet up with your date in a more discreet location. 

At the Office 

At Your House 

This is yet another super-exciting place to have an affair but also one of the riskiest. It should be pretty apparent that you should not fuck your date in your own house, mainly because so many things can go wrong in a matter of seconds. Would you want to ruin everything you’ve worked for because of a simple blowjob? Probably not.

At Their House 

This particular scenario is as risky as the previous one we’ve covered. If your date is married or in a relationship, the last place you would want to have a steamy fuck session in their house. Once again, so many things can go wrong that it’s simply not worth taking the risk. Even if your date is not in a relationship, you wouldn’t want to be seen by their family, neighbors, roommates, etc. Keep a low profile, and you should be fine. 

Places Frequented by Your Partner and Friends 

Even though the places frequented by your partner and friends should be considered the hottest spots, many people (inadvertently) decide to hook up with their partner in crime in restaurants, bars, and clubs visited by their friends. It should be pretty obvious why this scenario is a super-high risk. However, that doesn’t stop people from being caught red-handed. Adrenaline is a hell of a drug, but rest assured it’s not worth risking everything you’ve built with your significant other for the sake of riding on high adrenaline levels.

A Few More Useful Tips  

Since we’ve more or less wrapped up both risky places to have sex and best locations, it’s time to shift our attention to some useful tips and tricks you can use in times of need

Always Make Sure to Cover Your Tracks 

Being meticulous and prudent in your endeavors is the perfect recipe for success. In simpler words, always make sure to erase any traces of your affair, including messages, pictures, and emails. You would be surprised how little it takes for your significant other to become suspicious about your activities. If you want to continue having an affair, it’s in your interest to be vigilant and cover your tracks as best as possible. Bear in mind; you’re one simple mistake away from ruining your relationship or marriage. 

Choose Your Dates Carefully 

While you can’t know much about a person from seeing them once or twice, it’s always good to have some sort of criteria and rules to live by. This means you should probably avoid dating single people who are looking for commitment, because, sooner or later, that’s going to come back and bite you in the ass. On top of that, make sure you’re sleeping with people who are looking for the same or at least similar things as you.

Leave Minimal Traces

One of the most common mistakes people make is their tendency to pay for expenses with their credit cards. It goes without saying that this is a bad idea since it can be easily picked up by your significant other. All it takes is looking at your credit card report, and you’re done. Use cash!

It would also be a good idea to have a secondary SIM card and use it exclusively for communication between you and your date. This way, your spouse or significant other won’t have the option of looking into your listings and reports. 

Want to know more about sex, affairs, and ways to make your partner want you even more? Take a look at our other articles, and we guarantee you’ll find ample tips and tricks on how to be a perfect lover!