Even though orgies are kind of taboo in today’s society, there is plenty of action going on around the world at all times. Enthusiasts and adventurists alike gather in clubs, hotels, and private places to have hot, steamy sex with multiple people at once. The vast majority of them do it because it’s fun, exhilarating, and, more often than not – an unforgettable experience. 

If you’re interested in trying and participating in one of these gatherings but aren’t sure how to join an orgy, take a moment to check out some of the tips and tricks we’ve covered in this article. By the time you finish reading, you should have more than enough information to at least know where to start and where to find an orgy in your area. 

Is an Orgy the Right Choice for You? 

Before you start looking for one, it’s probably a good idea to ask yourself whether participating in an orgy would be your cup of tea in the first place. Many people think it’s the right thing for them to do until they actually do it and subsequently regret their choices. 

Therefore, we would strongly recommend you to invest a bit of time into thinking about joining an orgy and revising your options before you commit to them. One thing we would recommend you to keep in mind is NOT to worry about the social stigma surrounding orgies because they have been around since ancient times.

On the other hand, if you’re a jealous type and are in a dilemma whether or not to participate in an orgy, it’s probably a good idea to think twice about it. 

Is an Orgy the Right Choice for You 

How to Find an Orgy

Now that we’ve covered some of the preemptive questions you ought to ask yourself, it’s time for the fun part! One thing you should remember is that an orgy is not something you’re going to stumble upon accidentally. Instead, you have to know where to look and you ought to ask the right question if you intend to find the best-possible orgy in your area. 

Sex Clubs 

It comes as no surprise that sex clubs are the hotspot for orgies. However, many people don’t even know whether there is a sex club in their town. Well, regardless of the size of your city, chances are there’s a sex club somewhere. The locations may not always be known to the public, but as long as you know where to look, you’ll probably find it. 

It’s important to point out that merely locating a sex club is just the beginning of the adventure. You can’t just walk in and start having sex with other people; it’s not how these things work. Instead, you have to speak with the owner or manager, ask them about the policies of their club, and then perhaps shift your attention to orgies. Don’t be afraid to ask them about their policies regarding orgies, but also don’t be surprised if you get turned down. It’s usually nothing personal, but you have to remember that these people typically have a set of strict rules they ought to enforce, regardless of the circumstances. 

So, for example, if they have a no-singles policy and you’re single, don’t expect them to make an exception just for you. Still, even if you fail to meet the proposed requirements for participating, sex clubs are great places for meeting new people and trying out new stuff. 

Make Friends in Sex-Positive Circles

This way of finding an orgy might not be the fastest one (it certainly isn’t). Still, it’s a solid foundation for your future endeavors. Having a friend who frequents sex-positive circles is quite a blessing because they can be of tremendous help since they are likely to have contacts with people who organize orgies. 

The best thing about having such a friend is that you don’t have to bother to find a group session because you’re probably going to make contacts on your own. In other words, once you join this circle, you won’t have to hassle with going through the same process again. 

FetLife is a Powerful Tool

FetLife is a platform designed to help people share their kinks and find like-minded people with whom they can share their wildest dreams. It’s also a great place to meet people who are interested in orgies, are organizers of orgies, or perhaps want to find out whether or not orgies are their true calling. 

Thanks to the power of modern technologies as well as the power of the World Wide Web, you can find like-minded people with a few simple clicks. On top of that, FetLife’s search function allows you to narrow your search to a specific region, meaning you won’t even have to go out of town to participate in an orgy. 

Some people don’t like the fact that it’s a premium service, but nothing good in life comes for free. Furthermore, it’s only a couple of bucks per month, so it’s safe to say that you won’t go bankrupt from using their services.

Dating Apps  

It’s no secret that there are dozens of dating apps that give you the option of finding and participating in various sex activities, including orgies. While it sounds weird and out of place, don’t forget that Tinder started as an app for hookups and ended up being the mecca of kinkiness and hot action

Kasidie is one of many apps we would recommend you to start with, especially if you’re planning on participating in orgies with your significant other. It’s an excellent platform for swingers and adventurous couples, and it’s one of the safest ways for you to enter the world of group sex.

On the other hand, if you would like to try a more mainstream app, try using Tinder, which is an already established giant of the dating world. While it’s not explicitly designed to help you find an orgy, it’s a helpful tool for people who are just starting their kinky journey.

Dating Apps

How to Plan an Orgy

While planning an orgy is a lot more challenging than many people think, it’s doable as long as you follow a few simple rules. If you don’t want to waste your time finding out how to get invited in one, maybe it’s a good idea to organize one yourself!

Short and Balanced Invite List

The best way of doing this is to start with a small and balanced list. You don’t want to throw a massive 100-people orgy, because rest assured it’s going to end up being one giant mess. Instead, narrow your list to a few couples and people while also maintaining a nice balance between males and females. 

But what constitutes a delicate balance? Unfortunately, the perfect formula does not exist, but according to some seasoned organizers, a male-female ratio of 3:2 is considered balanced. Bear in mind; this is only applicable if your guests are comfortable engaging with people of the same sex.

Safe Sex and a Set of Rules 

No matter how well you know the participants of your orgy, practicing safe sex is crucial. The use of condoms and lubricants should be mandatory. On top of that, it’s a good idea to come up with a set of rules, so that everyone knows what’s allowed and what is not. The first rule of every orgy should be – No means no. It’s all about consent and excellent communication, so make sure to keep that part of your party highly regulated. 

Don’t hesitate to kick out guests who fail to follow the rules, and make sure not to have a personal bias towards anyone, even if they are your close friends. Breaking the rules means no more action for that person – no exceptions!

Provide At Least One Room Where Sex is Not Allowed

Even though it may sound a bit counterproductive to have a no-sex room during an orgy party, it’s something you should think about. Provide your guests with a place where they can have a drink, talk to each other, and get to know each other better before they start banging. This could also be a room where your guests can catch a breath and recharge after a steamy session. 

If you would like to know more about sex, affairs, orgies, and other closely-related subjects – read our other articles! We aim to bring these subjects closer to our readers who want to explore the vast world beyond vanilla sex.