First date endings are just about as awkward as their beginnings. You’re probably doing your best to feel out the vibe and figure out if you checked all the necessary boxes, and trust us when we say, your date is doing the exact same thing. Both sides are confused and anxious.
Sure, it’s easy to predict that there will be a second date if the first one was filled with chemistry and the two of you connected both on a physical and emotional plane, but what if you got served with a “Thanks, I had fun tonight.”?
Unless you’re a mind reader or the gods of love are bestowing their favor upon you, knowing how to get a second date can be tricky.
To make matters worse, the methodology behind the assessment process is different depending on if you’re a guy or a girl. Just when you thought things couldn’t get more complicated, they somehow do. But it’s not all doom and gloom.
Today we’re going to do our best and help you figure out what to do after the first date and if your potential romantic partner is really into you or just wasting your time.
Who Calls Who?
The roles in a modern relationship have changed, or better said, they are less defined. Dating has become more liberal; it’s more about enjoying yourself than following a specific set of rules. Nothing is set in stone; however, in most cases, the male Initiates the second date.
This is due to the fact that men inherently have the desire to lead. Now, there’s nothing wrong with women who prefer to take the initiative, but in most scenarios, it’s the guy who should arrange a second outing. So guys, even if the first date wasn’t all fireworks and full of sparks of sexual attraction and interest, don’t hesitate to state what you want and make your move.
If she’s not into you and declines, it’s not the end of the world. Look it at this way – you’ve just saved yourself a ton of time. However, if she genuinely enjoyed herself, asking her out for a second one is exactly what she’ll want to hear.
As we mentioned before, there are no set rules you should follow, so if you’re a girl lacking the patience required for the post-first-date waiting game, by all means, be the one who makes the first move. Just remember, if your date sends you a text, don’t leave him hanging. Make sure to give him an answer in a timely manner.
Speaking of texts, here’s a couple of examples of how to ask for a second date via text.
What to Text a Girl After First Date
Keep it concise and straightforward. This is the number one piece of advice we can give you when considering what to text a girl after the first date is done. Avoid texting her 24/7 and running out of topics to talk about. Save that for your second rendezvous. This way, you will preserve the mystery and excitement.
Another puzzling thing that needs to be addressed is when to ask for a second date via text? If you’re satisfied with the way your first date ended, it’s best to let her know as soon as you get home. If the feeling is mutual, she’ll be anxiously waiting for that text. A good example would be “Made it home! I had a great time with you. I would like to take you out again, how does Wednesday night sound?”. Simple yet effective.
What to Text a Guy After a First Date
The same applies if you are a girl thinking about texting a guy you really enjoyed spending time with. Nothing fancy, just tell him you had a splendid date and comment on something that came up in conversation. That’s really what you’re looking for when texting after a first date. Nothing too fancy. Just a simple text that will encourage him to ask you out for a second date.
Something along the lines of “I had a great time last night! You really nailed it with the choice of restaurant. Can’t wait to see what you have in mind next :)” should do the trick.
Don’t rush anything
Every new relationship can quickly get us overexcited and say or do things that can scare away our potential partner. Instead, try and take things slowly, get to know each other at a steady pace, and indulge in the little things without getting too carried away. It’s okay to express your interest just don’t overdo it.
That way, you’ll give yourself and your partner enough time and space to process everything. That way, you’ll ensure your relationship has a healthy future.
But what if your first date wasn’t that successful and you’re not looking forward to a second one? Don’t stress, there’s plenty of fish in the sea, and they happen to be swimming in our pond. Don’t believe us? Meet up with attractive and like-minded singles today!