Almost every person and couple goes through moments in time when they feel like they need to switch it up and spice up their sex lives. When this happens, many people often first think of trying new positions or buying sex toys. And these solutions can work well for quite a while.

However, for some people, these sexual excitements work well for only a little while and aren’t quite enough. If you and/or your partner (if you have one) feel like this may be happening and you want to take your sexual fantasies to another level, perhaps inviting another person (or two!) into your bedroom for a threesome might be the perfect solution!

Most people don’t openly talk about threesomes, which are also often known as menages a trois. This is almost completely due to the societal “shame” that surrounds sex in general. This shame is usually even further accentuated regarding threesomes because they are not a traditional sex practice.

In reality, there is no need to feel shame about sex and the way that you want to have. It is a natural, healthy part of life, and if you feel like you need a certain type of sensual release, maybe you should have it. That is as long as you aren’t hurting someone else (such your significant other).

So, while cheating is not acceptable for most couples, maybe a threesome is! But do you know how to find a threesome to join? Don’t stress at all, we got you! Here is a guide on some of the best ways on how to get a threesome!

How to Set Up A Threesome:

1) Make Sure You Are Mentally and Emotionally Ready

Most types of sexual desires we feel have a tendency to be extremely strong and mind-altering. Almost all of us have had some type of sexual tryst that we jumped into headfirst and regretted after the act. Often it can be hard to decipher whether it was us, our partner(s) or the act itself that made the sex regrettable. All we know is that we wish we didn’t get involved with it in the first place.

But this sorrow always occurs after the act. Truly this is a testament to the unbelievable strength of the biological imperative to have sexual intercourse in the first place. Unfortunately, sex fantasies are often simply mental, hormonal games we play on ourselves, and have very little basis in what we actually want/like.

However, that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t indulge in your sexual fantasies at all. We all need a healthy release of this type of tension regularly to live full, satisfying lives. You just need to carefully think about the real-life consequences that can occur by indulging in your sensual imagination. This can help you avoid any negative feelings that may get stirred up later by jumping into something that your hormones (but not your mind) are in full control of.

Just make sure that you clear your mind as much as possible and really check with yourself that you want to indulge in a threesome. Make sure you are aware of the consequences. Ask yourself questions such as:

  • Do I feel secure with myself?
  • Do I feel secure with my potential partners?
  • Is it possible that the fantasy of having of a threesome is better than the reality of having one?
  • Will I regret this later?

As long as you wrap your head around the idea of having a threesome, you can be certain you made a good decision, whether or not you find yourself willing to take the leap and have one.

2) Make Sure You Plan with Your Significant Other

If you have a partner already, you don’t want a threesome to ruin your relationship. This is why you will want to carefully discuss the idea of having group sex with them. In order to successfully pull it off, you are both going to need to plan it out in great detail. First, you are going to have to make sure that they share a similar fantasy and are willing to make it a real-life escapade.

Avoid the desire to convince them and/or change their mind to have one. This can only cause problems later. But if you guys are both on board for a menage a trois, you need to carefully weigh the various possibilities and ramifications that could occur by indulging yourselves.

Make sure that you set up ground rules that you both agree on. Also, you will need to agree on the type of person you want to invite to your threesome, and how you want to proceed about bringing them into the fold. Once you have agreed on all aspects of the potential threesome, and have gone through a great deal of preparation in the form of honest discussion and planning, you can feel comfortable with taking it to the next level with your partner and finding a proper third wheel.

3) Find the Right Third Wheel(s)

This is potentially the trickiest part since many people are not open to threesomes. However, there is a variety of different ways to find parties open to the idea; you just need to be slick about it. The first thing you may want to do is ask around to see if any of your friends or acquaintances want to have a threesome with you.

If you are willing to do the work, you can patiently work your way through clubs and bars, spark conversations with potential mates, and drop careful hints to see if they are interested. Don’t be surprised if you have to deal with a decent amount of rejection.

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If you want to minimize this cumbersome process and make it even easier, you can:

  • Visit swinger clubs
  • Make an ad on Craigslist
  • Use threesome apps

Whichever way you decide to set up your threesome, just make sure that you take some time to see if you really vibe with your new partner(s), and see if they can work within your ground rules. Also, never forget practice safe sex.

Hopefully, these tips on how to get a threesome can help you and your partner(s) spice up your sex life. If you want some extra help with finding a willing threesome partner, check out Baeby.com! Here at Baeby, we provide a wondrous and free dating service for amazing locals in your area. Surely some of them are ready to be the third partner in a menage a trois!