Every bad date is different, but after your first date has taken on a life of its own – it’s over. Here is a guide on how to tell someone you are NOT into them, even if it is your first date.

3 Steps to Telling Your First Date You Are NOT Into Them

Be Present

One of the most problematic parts of making it clear to your first date that you are already ready to move on is making yourself present. Do not be distracted in any way when you look them in the eye and say, “I am not going to take this further with you.”

Telling someone in person, face-to-face, that you are ending the relationship is essential no matter what stage you are in. However, during, or after a first date you need to be fully attentive to the person when you let them know it’s over. Any type of distraction on your part may lead to a longer, more drawn-out ending to your flopped fling.

couple breaking up

Choose Your Weapon

It’s all fair in love, and war, right? Wrong. When you take a sexy woman out on a date you may have high expectations. If they let you down, you will need to choose the right approach to get yourself out of the situation. Think first about how you will deliver the news that you are not having a good time, and then also what you want to say about it. If you want to her remain calm, you may need to move your date to another location before dropping the break-up bomb.  

Say the Word

When you realize that there is no way the date will ever round second base, you need to spit it out. Make sure you are in a place where she can clearly see, and hear you and let it out. Say the words that she needs to hear to know that you never will be calling, or asking her to meet you again. If she desires more information, simply tell her she is beautiful, but that you no longer desire her company – and that will not change.

Once you have made that clear, say “Goodbye,” and thank her for the time she spent with you on your date. Then you are free to leave, never needing to worry about more closure.  

What to Say After the First Date If Not Interested

If you are struggling to find the words, you may need a little help finding exactly what to say and how to tell someone you’re not interested after a first date.

Here are just a few samples of sentences that should break it off with the least amount of fuss.


  • This simply doesn’t do it for me, and I desire another partner.  
  • You are great, but I am going to move on.
  • I don’t feel the spark I need to start a relationship.
  • You and I make better friends than partners.
  • I am not feeling attracted to you romantically, and I need to stop this before it continues.
  • I do not feel that into you, and it is better for me to move on.
  • I want to move forward with my own personal freedom.  
  • I do not want to give up being single for a relationship with you.
  • I don’t want to go on another date.

How to Cope With Online Dating Rejection

Getting turned down by someone you are interested in romantically can hit hard. If you get your feelings hurt either online or in person – don’t worry about it! There are ways to cope with dating rejection.

If you feel like rejection is stinging bad, talk to someone new or strike up an online connection. This doesn’t mean you have to fall in love, but starting a new relationship with a flirty friend can help you handle rejection. The reality is that even the hottest people get turned down. Look … it happens to everyone.

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