Being a rebound guy is definitely not a fun experience, but it’s even more dangerous if the guy in question is oblivious to his newly acquired status. While breakups are usually not a happy moment for both partners, the aftermath of a nasty breakup is what should be your primary concern. If you’re just entering a new relationship, don’t hesitate to do a bit of research and figure out the severity of your new girlfriend’s most recent breakup. By the time you finish reading this article, you’ll understand why it’s essential to be aware of your new partner’s past experiences.
We’ve come up with a couple of clues and signs you can recognize during a relationship and draw your conclusions accordingly. If you’re struggling to figure out whether you’re the rebound guy, take a moment to check some of the signs we’ve mentioned in this article.
What is a Rebound Guy?
You’ve probably stumbled upon this term a couple of times, but not too many people have used it until recently. Fortunately, the definition of the term is pretty simple – a rebound guy is a guy who thinks he got lucky with a girl who’s out of his league, not realizing that she’s only dating him to get over her ex. In case you’re wondering how to tell if you’re a rebound, it’s rather simple – if you find yourself in a situation that looks like your new girl is just drowning her sorrow, chances are you’re the infamous rebound guy.
Signs You’re a Rebound Guy
Now that we’ve covered the definition of being a rebound guy, it’s time to shift our attention to some clues and signs that you could find helpful in case you’re struggling to figure out whether or not you’re a part of this club.
Things Are Moving Too Fast
In most cases, rebound guys usually end up with girls who want to move the relationship to a whole new level in a matter of days. For example, asking you to move in together after only a week of dating is probably not a good sign. That doesn’t mean ALL girls who are “on the rebound” behave like this, but it’s usually the case. Girls who say that they love you on your second or third date are also likely to be on the rebound, and it’s probably a good idea to bring up and discuss that particular issue in the early stages of your relationship.
If you notice that things are moving suspiciously fast in your relationship, don’t panic right away. However, you should keep in mind that it’s generally not a super-good sign.
Your Gut is Telling You That Something is Missing
Many men have had this experience where their relationship is seemingly perfect, but they simply can’t shake off the feeling that something is missing. And, more importantly, those men are usually right, there is something missing – genuine emotions.
While it’s not always the best idea to trust your gut, if it keeps poking you, it’s probably a good idea to at least address your concerns. You will not always be right, but at least you’ll know the truth behind your new girl’s intentions.
She Isn’t Too Friendly When Talking About Her Ex
While it’s somewhat rare to meet people who have zero bad things to say about their ex, it can be quite alarming if there’s palpable hate in your new girlfriend’s voice. You should probably avoid bringing up her ex in the first place, but if he somehow emerges in your conversations, pay attention to her reaction and try to figure out whether she’s still bitter. Most people get over their ex-partners once they move into a new relationship, but girls who are on the rebound tend to have issues with leaving the past behind.
On top of that, if she appears to be focusing on making her ex jealous rather than enjoy her time with you, it’s probably not a good sign for you.
When You Think About It – You Have Nothing In Common
People hook up with each other for various reasons, mainly because they are initially physically attracted to each other. While there’s nothing wrong with this, it can become a problem if you turn an adventure into a serious relationship. This can go on for some time, but if you notice after a month or two that you have zero things in common with your new girl and that there is a significant lack of serious and deep conversations, you’re not in a relationship you’re in an affair. If you’re looking for serious, long-term commitments, avoid these scenarios at all costs.
She Has Commitment Issues
If she wants to be with you all the time, but she isn’t ready to make a serious commitment, chances are she actually doesn’t want to be with you but would rather use you for some time until she either gets over her ex or goes back to him. Both of these scenarios are pretty bad for you, so it’s a good idea to put an end to it while you still can. If she doesn’t want to be seen in public with you or doesn’t want to meet any of your friends, consider it a massive red flag and put an end to your misery while you’re still ahead.
Being Consistently Compared to Someone You Don’t Even Know
Even though comparisons can be a good thing, being constantly compared to a guy you haven’t even met is not only a red flag, but it’s also quite annoying at times. Girls who do this often are clearly not over their ex, and what they are doing is searching for straws to hang on in their new relationship. In other words, this is a reliable indicator that they are not over their ex-partner, which is a scenario you would want to avoid.
There’s no unique trick to solving this particular predicament other than facing your girl with facts. If you’re not keen on being compared all the time, tell her!
Suspicious Amounts of Sex
Now, you might be thinking “How can this possibly be a bad thing?”, but copious amounts of sex can mean a couple of things. For starters, the two of you could be madly in love with one another and simply like to crown your love with ridiculous amounts of sex. That’s completely fine. However, if she’s the one initiating sweaty sessions all the time, it may just be her coping mechanism, or even worse – a tool for keeping you at bay.
If you become suspicious of frequently being solicited for hot action (we know it seems impossible), don’t hesitate to ask your girl about the reasons behind her sexual hunger. It doesn’t always have to be the rebound scenario, but it’s still better to be safe than sorry.
The Relationship is Stagnant
Lack of development in a relationship is quite an alarming situation. The vast majority of healthy relationships reach certain milestones in a reasonable amount of time, whereas in suspicious ones, these milestones are postponed indefinitely. For example, you shouldn’t rush her to meet your parents or friends, but it should eventually happen at some point. If she’s actively avoiding these situations, there is some kind of a problem lingering above your relationship.
Similarly, if you’re struggling to “upgrade” your relationship to a new level, chances are there’s something wrong. Basically, if your relationship is based on ridiculous amounts of sex and nothing else, you might just be THAT guy.
How to Cope With Being the Rebound Guy
Unfortunately, a hard-written set of rules does not exist. It all comes down to your personality and capability to notice red flags and signs. As far as we are concerned, if you’re having fun and feeling good in a relationship, and you are good at guarding your heart and being easy going like that, give it a chance. On the other hand, if you’re looking for a long-term commitment and you happen to see signs of being a rebound guy, it’s probably a good idea to put an end to it before it becomes emotionally painful.
You will probably hear millions of excuses like “I will do my best for this to work”, “I like the idea of being in a relationship”, and “I will make this work, I promise!” but most of these scenarios end up being nothing other than mere excuses. As we’ve mentioned at the beginning, being a rebound guy is not fun in any situation, and you’ll more than likely end up hurt, desperate, and emotionally wrecked. Consequently, YOU have the potential to become the guy “on the rebound” and hurt some poor girl because you got hurt by another woman.
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