So, with the first date successfully in the bag, it’s time to cook up a strategy that will secure a second one and put you in an excellent spot to start a new romantic relationship. In general, second dates are a lot less awkward and much more relaxing in the sense that there’s more space for getting to know each other better.
That being said, second dates are not all roses, especially if the first one was a huge success. With the bar set high, expectations need to be met so a little bit of advice and guidance might be just what you need to seal the deal.
Here are 7 tips that will make your second date conversation interesting and fulfilling.
Tip 1: Choose an Environment Where You Can Have a Conversation
Many people make the mistake of thinking that going to the movies or a club is a good idea for a second date. Even a noisy bar is not an environment where you would want to spend your second date. Keep in mind that you’re still trying to get acquainted with your date, so any loud environments fall into the “what not to do on a second date” category.
With all the conventional topics out of the way like discussing your careers, family relationships, and music preferences, second dates are an opportunity to dig a little deeper and get the know the person you’re interested in. That’s why picking a location where you can have a pleasant conversation is crucial for the success of your second date.
Tip 2: Choose an Interesting Location
Another thing to keep in mind is that you want your second rendezvous to be interesting on its own. So think about locations that will keep you entertained while also allowing you to keep a steady conversation going. A visit to the local zoo or even just a picnic in the park (if weather conditions allow it) are both great options. If you’re looking for an indoor option, bowling is always an excellent choice, just remember to let your date win.
Tip 3: Politely Ask If There’s Anything Your Date Would Like to Do
Your potential love interest might have a great suggestion for what to do on the second date or maybe a favorite place he or she loves visiting and just can’t wait to show you. However, sometimes people out of shyness decide not to share ideas and places they are enthusiastic about. Remember, this dating business is just as nerve-wracking for them as it is for you, so helping them out by politely asking might be just what they need to overcome their timidness.
Tip 4: Have a Backup Plan
Then again, your politeness might be met with everyone’s least favorite reply: “whatever you want to do is fine with me.” Remember always to have a backup plan if your date is indecisive. If you live near great hiking trails, a day date in the mountains could be a great choice for your second encounter. The bottom line is, ideas for what to do on your second date should not come exclusively from one person. It’s okay for both parties to make suggestions.
Tip 5: Avoid Moments of Awkward Silence
This next tip might be easier said than done, but bear with us, there are actually a few topics you can cover in order to assure there’s never a dull moment during your second encounter. Talking about your aspirations in life is always a good topic as it gives you valuable insight into what drives your potential partner.
Conversations like these will tell you if the two of you are onboard or if you’re sailing on two completely different ships. If you want to keep things light, avoid asking the dreaded “Where do you see yourself in five years?” question and instead opt for the “what’s your favorite ice-cream flavor” question.
Tip 6: Light-Hearted Conversations Build Trust
Probing questions will help you find out if you and your date are a good match, and having that information sooner rather than later is desirable. That being said, second date topics should also be witty and hilarious. Cheerful topics such as “what’s the funniest thing that ever happened to you” will put both of you in a good mood and are perfect for lowering each other’s guard.
Laughter forms a special connection between two people and makes way for other bonding mechanisms to prosper. Keep this in mind when you think about things to talk about on a second date. Again, if you’re dating a somewhat shy person, make the first move and share your embarrassing story first. Try and keep it polite. Going overboard with profanity is something your date might find distasteful.
Tip 7: Keep It Short but Not Too Short
You’re probably asking yourself how long should a second date last? Well, there’s really no right or wrong answer. Second dates are usually longer than your first encounter because you’re both much more relaxed and less anxious around each other. Aside from continuing where you left off with getting to know each other, second dates are all about having a blast, and everyone knows that time flies when you’re having fun.
As long as you’re both having fun, you don’t have to worry about looking at your watch, however, remember to save something for the third date.
Second dates are important because they give you a better feeling of the love potential between you and your new match. With these essential tips, you’ll get a better sense if it’s meant to be or not. Also, if you’re the shy type, we hope these tips will give you an idea about what to talk about on a second date and how to make it less awkward and more fun.
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