No matter if you call it head over heels, being swept off your feet, lovestruck, or any other related phrase, falling in love can be one of the best feelings that you can experience in life. Hopefully, you’ve been lucky enough to experience it already at some point in your life. However, while falling in love can bring many exciting and happy emotions and experiences, it can also be nerve-racking and overwhelming.
Depending on how you look at it, some individuals suffer from falling in love very easily, which can often lead to misery and sadness if things do not end up working out. You may have found yourself asking, “Why do I fall in love so easily?” the last time a potential relationship ended poorly.
Well, luckily for you, many people ask themselves that same question. We are here to help point out some potential reasons why your emotions may run rampant and get the best of you, and give some tips on how to take things a little slower.
The Power of Love
There is a reason why it is not called keeping your balance in love because it can make you feel crazy and evoke the emotional sensation of falling without knowing the outcome.
From a scientific standpoint, when two people are attracted to each other, hormones become responsible for the physiological responses that we feel in our bodies. Adrenaline, phenylethylamine, dopamine, oxytocin, norepinephrine, and testosterone are being released at an elevated level that heightens all the pleasures and can make it seem like you are “addicted” to those feelings.
The biological state that falling in love produces makes it similar to the high that is experienced on uppers like cocaine. The pure euphoria that people experience when they fall in love makes them never want to lose that feeling, which can potentially explain why people tend to do it fast and/or often.
Another potential cause for why some people fall in love so easily is that they are “hopeless romantics.” Individuals who unwaveringly believe that every relationship will end happily, no matter how many have ended in emotional turmoil. That persistent believing that love is real and that their next lover will be their true love can play an important role in falling in love so easily. If you go into each relationship ‘knowing’ that it will have a happy end, there is no need to hold anything back.
How to Pump the Heart Brakes
Now, we don’t want you to think that we’re telling you to never fall in love or that you need to wait X days because we’re not. There is nothing wrong with jumping in with both feet, hoping you’ll land on the solid ground with your new lover and being vulnerable the entire time. We aim to help those who say, “I fall in love too easily and how can I help myself?”
Because love is such a powerful and consuming emotion, sometimes it can be in your best mental and physical interest to protect yourself a little bit from the potentially devastating feelings of heartbreak.
4 Things to Remember When You Fall in Love
If you are one of those individuals who find themselves continually falling in love too quickly (each and every time), here are some helpful tips to read, store in the back of your head, and bring out the next time you find yourself beginning to experience those feelings.
Sure, the beginning of any new relationship is fun and exciting, and everything is all new and pretty. The dates, the fun activities, and intimacy can really push your emotions to the limit and make you feel like you’re in love.
While there is no set time frame for when people fall in love, the important part is keeping your head straight and figuring out if you are in love or just excited about the things that you do with that new person. There is no shame in admitting to yourself that you are not in love in the early stages because that doesn’t mean you won’t be later on down the road.
It can be extremely easy to want to spend every minute with your new lover, but that can create a false sense of the relationship. Taking some time away from each other every now and then can really help you gain perspective on how you really feel about the relationship and the direction that it is heading.
Once you reach the stage of introducing your other half to friends and family, it can be a great idea to ask for their opinion. You don’t have to listen to it or even agree, but your friends and family care about you and your happiness, and often, they know you the best.
Convince Yourself that it is Okay to Take it Slow
The saying, “Rome wasn’t built in a day,” can really apply to a great relationship. Sure, go ahead and enjoy every new experience with the new person in your life, but just remember that every great relationship takes some work (some require more than others) and that it might not always be highest highs.
Taking things slowly and doing things “right” can be extremely beneficial, especially for those who are nervous about being vulnerable and sometimes can’t help themselves. Falling in love doesn’t need to be a race and it is always better to be 100% sure and honest with them and yourself than it is to force something that might not be real.
By no means do we intend to tell you how to live your life and how to handle your emotions, we just want to help provide a bit of perspective, a quiet voice of reason for those seeking a bit of help on falling in love. Don’t let these tips come across as us preaching on how not to fall in love because that would be silly. Lust and love happen, every day, and in the end, we all hope to weather the lusts to find the love that will make us truly happy.
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